In reality, a gay man is just a homosexual who hates the men he loves. How easy that is. And this is the reason I'm living with my life's problems, I once wrote. The problem is that I don't have a job. I think all men and women should get the same support with which their relationships should be managed and where they can go whenever they happen to want to. I believe that there is a human need for empathy and an unconditional respect for men and women – men and women who cannot just accept themselves without being judged. So I'm hoping that we can find a common ground and start discussing these issues within our home or within our relationships. So please call the support hotline. We can make you feel the same way. It's a long list of messages, though, which have been the most common during the last eight years. As far as I know, no one has contacted them, and no one has made any significant changes but a general suggestion. In some sense it seems like a very good deal for a place to support one's friends, as a community and as a public service. So how exactly do you find support on their terms. I wrote a blog the first time I decided to move to New York City, a place where the internet has so often been a hindrance.